Thursday, February 6, 2014
*Sigh*
Recently I've been in a spiritual stump. We've all been there right? It happens so gradually that you don't realize that it's happened until you're trying to figure out why the Spirit doesn't move you like it used to. Instead of relishing in the spirit of the holidays, I was simply trying to keep my head above water. I tried to talk to God and couldn't find the words to say. After a devastating work situation with a kid, it really was all I could do to wake up and return to work day after day. I was grieving and trying to keep up with the other kids who were still in my case load. I was not successful and spent all of December wandering if I was ever going to have the energy to catch up on missed paperwork. At the same time, I didn't want to do anything and found it hard to stay on top of things that up until that point had never been an issue. December's stresses continued as all of my kids on my caseload lost their cotton pickin' minds! I ended up doing what I comes naturally to me these past few years... escaping into TV. I found that I was able to shut my mind off and not think about the stress and the pressures of the day and of my job.This meant missed opportunities, arriving later and later to work, missing Sunday mornings and completely turning off God at times to escape. This turned into a mild depression where I just felt numb. Don't get me wrong, there were some highlights. My family rocks, I mean they seriously do. While my kids at work were losing it, my own son was able to successfully manage the holidays like a child without trauma triggers. This was a major accomplishment especially since there were many nights where others picked him up from daycare because I was working. But if anything required any type of serious effort, I knew it wasn't really going to happen. I could feel things getting out of control including the Landing. Spiritually, we were all being attacked. It was so discouraging. But the one thing that I was able to remember was that I wasn't going to stay there forever. I spent the New Year at home not because I didn't have anywhere to go, but because I didn't want to go anywhere. As January came, I started remembering that regardless of what was going on at work, I had a life and I had things that needed to get done. I slowly started to catch up. My paperwork was completed, the kids started to return to normal, I remembered that I had community... I made the decision to remember what was most important and decided that I was going to participate in the next Bible study. Gideon, here I come. Things are still stressful BUT I have remembered who I am and have gone back to focusing on what's important... although can I just say, I'm tired of winter. I want to thaw out now. I live in the south so that we have breaks from consistent winter weather. Where are the 60 degree breaks and above average temperatures?
Monday, February 11, 2013
Scratchy Sweaters and Unpopular Views
Lately, God has been changing me and I've been resisting the change... I guess that's not the way to put it... I'm not changing per se; what I'm about to write has for the most part always been how I feel about things but the need to speak these things have been like a scratchy sweater or wool blanket... oh so warm and comfortable but you often want to put something on to buffer the skin irritation... I've got to think of a better analogy! But I digress.
Let me start off with a basis for what I'm going to say. I think that everyone can agree that we live in a broken world. There is abuse and corruption and all sorts of ichiness. Over a week ago, part of our church family lost a two year old girl... Everyday, children are being beaten and abused... People are using guns to kill others and at times to kill the most innocent and I think, what is going on? Why is this all happening? I want to grab my family and move like a protected blob through life so that none of us gets hurt. But that's unrealistic. I love reading. I love watching TV. I love learning; just don't give me a test;). I love reading Scripture as God teaches and reminds me of His truths. What a beautiful God that I serve! There's a problem though. The more I read about God, the more the world makes less sense to me. While He is not growing, my knowledge of Him and His ways certainly do. I was watching a documentary of a young Jewish kid who was preparing for his Bar Mitzvah. He had Down's Syndrome and yet his innocence and reliance on God was so inspiring. (The documentary is called Praying for Lior). Here he was and he didn't understand a lot of things, but he constantly sang his prayers to God. He had that blind innocent faith that many children and child-like thinkers have. When I read through the Scriptures I find the same thing; especially in the Old Testament. God is seen as a refuge and relief from all of the battling. When they remembered, the Israelites were able to see just how holy God was. When Moses asked Who God was, God simply answered, "I AM." He is the Alpha and Omega; the be all and end all. He didn't begin and He won't end. He created us all. This is the basis of where my thoughts and comments begin. This is my foundation and the back story behind this particular entry.
As I said earlier, I love reading and I love watching TV. I love how God has wired us up to be story tellers and how in the end, Love wins. My problem is our culture's definition of love. Often I find that what we think of as love is not the same as God's Love. Because of this, we give love parameters. Love can only look this way. If it doesn't then it's not love. To me, this is a scary thing and it's something that plagues our culture and our world. God's Love is everlasting and wise and just. God's Love comes with parameters and rules. While there were hundreds of rules in the Old Testament that had to be followed for one thing or another, in the New Testament, some of those rules were no longer needed because of health improvements or because God was teaching new things and those rules became symbols. For example, Peter is told that there is no longer any food that was unclean. Also, after Christ's death and resurrection, you no longer needed to go through the religious rituals and see your local Rabbi to sacrifice something for you because Jesus made that practice obsolete. Also, Jesus made it a point to reach out to others whose views were not the same as His own and encouraged His disciples to do the same. In all of those cases, God was very clear about how things were to work and why these rules were no longer necessary. On the other hand, there were several things that continued to ring true in both the Old and New Testament. God still wanted us to remember where we'd come from; in the OT, they were to use stones. In the NT, we use communion and celebrate significant occasions like Christmas and Easter. Jesus tells us in both the Old and New Testament that He is the Messiah and He is coming back to set things right.
Now here is where I start to struggle. Gender roles continue to hold consistently in both testaments. Men are still supposed to be the head over women. As a woman, I want to balk against that. In a lot of ways, I want to say that it's not fair as I've known so many wise women and so many foolish men. And then of course, there's Romans 1:16-32. Paul starts off by saying that he's not ashamed of the Gospel because it's through the gospel that power from the Holy Spirit comes. The righteous live by faith. I wish that I could say that whole-heartedly but in many ways I can't. This is why I'm putting it here on my blog instead of on my Facebook page. But I have to start somewhere, right? In the list that Paul uses, he basically gets everyone. I mean, look at Romans 1:18- 23:
18 The wrath of God is being revealed from heaven against all the godlessness and wickedness of people, who suppress the truth by their wickedness, 19 since what may be known about God is plain to them, because God has made it plain to them. 20 For since the creation of the world God’s invisible qualities—his eternal power and divine nature—have been clearly seen, being understood from what has been made, so that people are without excuse.
21 For although they knew God, they neither glorified him as God nor gave thanks to him, but their thinking became futile and their foolish hearts were darkened. 22 Although they claimed to be wise, they became fools 23 and exchanged the glory of the immortal God for images made to look like a mortal human being and birds and animals and reptiles.
Paul just lays it out. If it ended there, we could say, "Yeah, that Paul. Preach it brotha!" and shake our heads at the foolishness of others. BUT Paul keeps going just to make sure that we understand exactly what he's talking about:
24 Therefore God gave them over in the sinful desires of their hearts to sexual impurity for the degrading of their bodies with one another. 25 They exchanged the truth about God for a lie, and worshiped and served created things rather than the Creator—who is forever praised. Amen.
26 Because of this, God gave them over to shameful lusts. Even their women exchanged natural sexual relations for unnatural ones. 27 In the same way the men also abandoned natural relations with women and were inflamed with lust for one another. Men committed shameful acts with other men, and received in themselves the due penalty for their error.
28 Furthermore, just as they did not think it worthwhile to retain the knowledge of God, so God gave them over to a depraved mind, so that they do what ought not to be done. 29 They have become filled with every kind of wickedness, evil, greed and depravity. They are full of envy, murder, strife, deceit and malice. They are gossips, 30 slanderers, God-haters, insolent, arrogant and boastful; they invent ways of doing evil; they disobey their parents; 31 they have no understanding, no fidelity, no love, no mercy. 32 Although they know God’s righteous decree that those who do such things deserve death, they not only continue to do these very things but also approve of those who practice them.
As a people, we want to skip verses 24 through 27 and censor it so that it's not there. We don't mind the other things, but those? How heartless and prejudice can Paul be? I was watching a movie the other day and the premise was that this woman was being nominated for "Catholic Woman of the Year" meanwhile, her son was having an affair and about to leave his wife and two children (whom he'd gotten pregnant when they were younger and married her) and a daughter who was a lesbian. She's doing everything that she can to do penance for their lifestyle and basically shuns her daughter choosing to live in denial and shames her son trying to convince him to return to his wife and kids. At one point, her daughter is getting married and she's at the ceremony. The priest who is there in secret is about to marry them and he asks the audience to pray that God will bless their "holy" union. At this point, I can sense my itchy sweater. Why? Because God is not going to bless sin; EVER. I am not just talking about same sex relationships; I'm talking about all sin. If you sleep with a person that you're not married to, God's not going to bless that. It's sin. If you lie and steal to get ahead at work, God's not going to bless that... even if it's to feed your family or whatever other excuse we come up with. Then, to make matters worse (I stopped watching at that point), today, they talked about the Pope resigning and American Catholics were asked what they hoped for as far as change in the papacy. They replied that they wanted more religious tolerance because the Church was old fashioned and not current. I really became angry at that. How can we as a people who haven't been around for very long dictate to the God of the universe; the One Who created us and made everything of beauty... how can we have the audacity to tell God that He needs to get with the times and culture? Seriously? That to me is like Joshua telling me that discipline is so over-rated and I just need to let him do whatever because I don't know anything. I think you know what my response would be... and how he would react.
Don't think that this is about Catholics. In Protestant churches as well the same thing is happening. The Boy Scouts are thinking about renigging the policy of gay boy scout leaders, churches all over are blurring the lines of Scripture to keep current with culture and turning their heads from infidelity and sin of all types simply because of the gain that they get from it... or simply to remain "relevant" and not offend.
Yes, God wants us to love each other. I don't believe in treating people like lepers and prosecuting them because they struggle with sin. I have many gay friends and they have no doubt that I love them; however I don't agree with their lifestyle and pray for them daily. I honestly believe that God wants to free us from sin and only He has that power. I don't believe that this makes me prejudiced. I don't believe that it makes me closed minded or even ignorant. Last time I checked, compared to God, I'm quite young... I choose to believe that maybe He knows what He's talking about regardless of whether or not I agree. God is not the One with the problem. He's the One with the solution. I think that my view can be summed up with the end of Job. Job was upset because he'd lost everything except for unsupportive friends and a nagging wife. Towards the end, God's basically asking him, "And who do you think you are?" Job wisely says, 'No one compared to you... so I'll just shut up and listen and do whatever you say." I don't think Job liked that time in his life. I'm sure that he looked back on that thinking how unfair it was that he lost everything in such a short amount of time. But regardless, he remembered that he was a baby who knew nothing compared to God. I pray for our culture who boxes their god in their own version of truth and then tries to convince us who know the True God to do the same. I think that Paul hit the nail on the head in his prayer to the Ephesians... may we as followers of Christ live in this way:
16 I pray that out of his glorious riches he may strengthen you with power through his Spirit in your inner being, 17 so that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith. And I pray that you, being rooted and established in love, 18 may have power, together with all the Lord’s holy people, to grasp how wide and long and high and deep is the love of Christ, 19 and to know this love that surpasses knowledge—that you may be filled to the measure of all the fullness of God. 20 Now to him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to his power that is at work within us, 21 to him be glory in the church and in Christ Jesus throughout all generations, for ever and ever! Amen.
Amen.
Let me start off with a basis for what I'm going to say. I think that everyone can agree that we live in a broken world. There is abuse and corruption and all sorts of ichiness. Over a week ago, part of our church family lost a two year old girl... Everyday, children are being beaten and abused... People are using guns to kill others and at times to kill the most innocent and I think, what is going on? Why is this all happening? I want to grab my family and move like a protected blob through life so that none of us gets hurt. But that's unrealistic. I love reading. I love watching TV. I love learning; just don't give me a test;). I love reading Scripture as God teaches and reminds me of His truths. What a beautiful God that I serve! There's a problem though. The more I read about God, the more the world makes less sense to me. While He is not growing, my knowledge of Him and His ways certainly do. I was watching a documentary of a young Jewish kid who was preparing for his Bar Mitzvah. He had Down's Syndrome and yet his innocence and reliance on God was so inspiring. (The documentary is called Praying for Lior). Here he was and he didn't understand a lot of things, but he constantly sang his prayers to God. He had that blind innocent faith that many children and child-like thinkers have. When I read through the Scriptures I find the same thing; especially in the Old Testament. God is seen as a refuge and relief from all of the battling. When they remembered, the Israelites were able to see just how holy God was. When Moses asked Who God was, God simply answered, "I AM." He is the Alpha and Omega; the be all and end all. He didn't begin and He won't end. He created us all. This is the basis of where my thoughts and comments begin. This is my foundation and the back story behind this particular entry.
As I said earlier, I love reading and I love watching TV. I love how God has wired us up to be story tellers and how in the end, Love wins. My problem is our culture's definition of love. Often I find that what we think of as love is not the same as God's Love. Because of this, we give love parameters. Love can only look this way. If it doesn't then it's not love. To me, this is a scary thing and it's something that plagues our culture and our world. God's Love is everlasting and wise and just. God's Love comes with parameters and rules. While there were hundreds of rules in the Old Testament that had to be followed for one thing or another, in the New Testament, some of those rules were no longer needed because of health improvements or because God was teaching new things and those rules became symbols. For example, Peter is told that there is no longer any food that was unclean. Also, after Christ's death and resurrection, you no longer needed to go through the religious rituals and see your local Rabbi to sacrifice something for you because Jesus made that practice obsolete. Also, Jesus made it a point to reach out to others whose views were not the same as His own and encouraged His disciples to do the same. In all of those cases, God was very clear about how things were to work and why these rules were no longer necessary. On the other hand, there were several things that continued to ring true in both the Old and New Testament. God still wanted us to remember where we'd come from; in the OT, they were to use stones. In the NT, we use communion and celebrate significant occasions like Christmas and Easter. Jesus tells us in both the Old and New Testament that He is the Messiah and He is coming back to set things right.
Now here is where I start to struggle. Gender roles continue to hold consistently in both testaments. Men are still supposed to be the head over women. As a woman, I want to balk against that. In a lot of ways, I want to say that it's not fair as I've known so many wise women and so many foolish men. And then of course, there's Romans 1:16-32. Paul starts off by saying that he's not ashamed of the Gospel because it's through the gospel that power from the Holy Spirit comes. The righteous live by faith. I wish that I could say that whole-heartedly but in many ways I can't. This is why I'm putting it here on my blog instead of on my Facebook page. But I have to start somewhere, right? In the list that Paul uses, he basically gets everyone. I mean, look at Romans 1:18- 23:
18 The wrath of God is being revealed from heaven against all the godlessness and wickedness of people, who suppress the truth by their wickedness, 19 since what may be known about God is plain to them, because God has made it plain to them. 20 For since the creation of the world God’s invisible qualities—his eternal power and divine nature—have been clearly seen, being understood from what has been made, so that people are without excuse.
21 For although they knew God, they neither glorified him as God nor gave thanks to him, but their thinking became futile and their foolish hearts were darkened. 22 Although they claimed to be wise, they became fools 23 and exchanged the glory of the immortal God for images made to look like a mortal human being and birds and animals and reptiles.
Paul just lays it out. If it ended there, we could say, "Yeah, that Paul. Preach it brotha!" and shake our heads at the foolishness of others. BUT Paul keeps going just to make sure that we understand exactly what he's talking about:
24 Therefore God gave them over in the sinful desires of their hearts to sexual impurity for the degrading of their bodies with one another. 25 They exchanged the truth about God for a lie, and worshiped and served created things rather than the Creator—who is forever praised. Amen.
26 Because of this, God gave them over to shameful lusts. Even their women exchanged natural sexual relations for unnatural ones. 27 In the same way the men also abandoned natural relations with women and were inflamed with lust for one another. Men committed shameful acts with other men, and received in themselves the due penalty for their error.
28 Furthermore, just as they did not think it worthwhile to retain the knowledge of God, so God gave them over to a depraved mind, so that they do what ought not to be done. 29 They have become filled with every kind of wickedness, evil, greed and depravity. They are full of envy, murder, strife, deceit and malice. They are gossips, 30 slanderers, God-haters, insolent, arrogant and boastful; they invent ways of doing evil; they disobey their parents; 31 they have no understanding, no fidelity, no love, no mercy. 32 Although they know God’s righteous decree that those who do such things deserve death, they not only continue to do these very things but also approve of those who practice them.
As a people, we want to skip verses 24 through 27 and censor it so that it's not there. We don't mind the other things, but those? How heartless and prejudice can Paul be? I was watching a movie the other day and the premise was that this woman was being nominated for "Catholic Woman of the Year" meanwhile, her son was having an affair and about to leave his wife and two children (whom he'd gotten pregnant when they were younger and married her) and a daughter who was a lesbian. She's doing everything that she can to do penance for their lifestyle and basically shuns her daughter choosing to live in denial and shames her son trying to convince him to return to his wife and kids. At one point, her daughter is getting married and she's at the ceremony. The priest who is there in secret is about to marry them and he asks the audience to pray that God will bless their "holy" union. At this point, I can sense my itchy sweater. Why? Because God is not going to bless sin; EVER. I am not just talking about same sex relationships; I'm talking about all sin. If you sleep with a person that you're not married to, God's not going to bless that. It's sin. If you lie and steal to get ahead at work, God's not going to bless that... even if it's to feed your family or whatever other excuse we come up with. Then, to make matters worse (I stopped watching at that point), today, they talked about the Pope resigning and American Catholics were asked what they hoped for as far as change in the papacy. They replied that they wanted more religious tolerance because the Church was old fashioned and not current. I really became angry at that. How can we as a people who haven't been around for very long dictate to the God of the universe; the One Who created us and made everything of beauty... how can we have the audacity to tell God that He needs to get with the times and culture? Seriously? That to me is like Joshua telling me that discipline is so over-rated and I just need to let him do whatever because I don't know anything. I think you know what my response would be... and how he would react.
Don't think that this is about Catholics. In Protestant churches as well the same thing is happening. The Boy Scouts are thinking about renigging the policy of gay boy scout leaders, churches all over are blurring the lines of Scripture to keep current with culture and turning their heads from infidelity and sin of all types simply because of the gain that they get from it... or simply to remain "relevant" and not offend.
Yes, God wants us to love each other. I don't believe in treating people like lepers and prosecuting them because they struggle with sin. I have many gay friends and they have no doubt that I love them; however I don't agree with their lifestyle and pray for them daily. I honestly believe that God wants to free us from sin and only He has that power. I don't believe that this makes me prejudiced. I don't believe that it makes me closed minded or even ignorant. Last time I checked, compared to God, I'm quite young... I choose to believe that maybe He knows what He's talking about regardless of whether or not I agree. God is not the One with the problem. He's the One with the solution. I think that my view can be summed up with the end of Job. Job was upset because he'd lost everything except for unsupportive friends and a nagging wife. Towards the end, God's basically asking him, "And who do you think you are?" Job wisely says, 'No one compared to you... so I'll just shut up and listen and do whatever you say." I don't think Job liked that time in his life. I'm sure that he looked back on that thinking how unfair it was that he lost everything in such a short amount of time. But regardless, he remembered that he was a baby who knew nothing compared to God. I pray for our culture who boxes their god in their own version of truth and then tries to convince us who know the True God to do the same. I think that Paul hit the nail on the head in his prayer to the Ephesians... may we as followers of Christ live in this way:
16 I pray that out of his glorious riches he may strengthen you with power through his Spirit in your inner being, 17 so that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith. And I pray that you, being rooted and established in love, 18 may have power, together with all the Lord’s holy people, to grasp how wide and long and high and deep is the love of Christ, 19 and to know this love that surpasses knowledge—that you may be filled to the measure of all the fullness of God. 20 Now to him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to his power that is at work within us, 21 to him be glory in the church and in Christ Jesus throughout all generations, for ever and ever! Amen.
Amen.
Saturday, July 21, 2012
Today I was reminded....
Today I was reminded about why I love being called "mommy". I can't tell you how many blogs I've started and erased about how trying my life is with my little guy. Honestly, I feel like I'm always fighting for him... sometimes with others but mostly so that he could see in him what I see in him. Yes, some of this is normal, but he seriously takes it past the realm of normality. If you don't believe me, ask around to someone whose had him overnight. They'll tell you!. We've been in this 3 month slump with this and quite frankly, I'm exhausted. It doesn't matter what I say or do, the boy just isn't happy unless he's in some sort of trouble. He'll have one or two good days and then follow up that success with 3 weeks of severe behavior (stealing, hoarding, lying, etc...) It at times seems like he has no regards to anyone's feelings but his own and he's so below his emotional milestones. Needless to say, it gets tedious and frustrating. BUT, this my friends is not what this is about.
Today, I was reminded about why I love being his mommy. Today was the first time in a long time that I saw the little boy that stole my heart. He was carefree and laughing. He was trusting and loving. He wasn't manipulative and heeded everything that I said without a "why" or even an argument. He wasn't perfect, but I don't want a perfect son. Jesus can keep that title!;) He often says that he loves me. I believe him when he says it... but today, he showed me and that is just so much better. These days were the moments that I cling to when all is wrong in my world. I fell in love again. Who knew that a water park could be so therapeutic?
Joshua did not like wearing his hat but with his *ahem* lighter skin, this was the only way to minimize the burning that was sure to happen. This was at the end of our adventures:)
Good night everyone!
Today, I was reminded about why I love being his mommy. Today was the first time in a long time that I saw the little boy that stole my heart. He was carefree and laughing. He was trusting and loving. He wasn't manipulative and heeded everything that I said without a "why" or even an argument. He wasn't perfect, but I don't want a perfect son. Jesus can keep that title!;) He often says that he loves me. I believe him when he says it... but today, he showed me and that is just so much better. These days were the moments that I cling to when all is wrong in my world. I fell in love again. Who knew that a water park could be so therapeutic?
Tuesday, May 22, 2012
Put One Step in Front of the Other...
It's been brought to my attention that I haven't written a blog in 7 months... Honestly, I've been so wrapped up in stuff that I haven't really thought about it. So, I'll catch you up... Got a job... This is a praise as many people wouldn't be able to say that these days. With that said, this is definitely a job "for a season". I'm praying that season ends when school starts and I can return to teaching. I miss it so much! But God is using this current job to stretch me in ways that apparently I needed. I love adults and love having friends who aren't kids, but I've discovered that I have very little compassion for whiny adults who are too selfish to focus outside of themselves. This folks is many times the nature of my job. Not all the time and not all of my clients are like this. It's better now than when I started. But I do have to win over their approval and convince them that they need me in their lives. Otherwise, no money. This has caused serious stress not only there, but the increase in my gas consumption as this is the way that I get from one client to another. I'm probably traveling between 250 and 350 miles per week average. My poor little car is doing it but it's on its last legs. The increase in gas has tightened my already tight budget along with the repairs from my old car. (2001 Elantra with almost 200,000 miles). Since December, I've spent over $1500 in car repairs and maintenance. Needless to say, it's time for a new car. I will say though, I'm getting to know Lynchburg and Amherst County like the back of my hand. Other things I've learned: many people in Lynchburg really are related to each other...and have the scandalous lives to prove it. I do like my clients most of the time. I'm partial to one who is really the most caring women I've ever met... just don't ever get on her bad side! I've developed a compassion for lower SES in a way that I didn't think of and have to say that our system really IS broken! If it weren't for churches providing food, clothing and shelter for many of these people, they'd be out on the street.
On the home front, Joshua has his ups and downs. We made it over a month with nothing but good reports. I was so excited! Then, BAM! Down the slippery slope we go. I love my son but the last two weeks have been torture. Sometimes, I have to walk the dog just to keep from killing the kid! Between the lying and stealing... and now we're bullying a special needs child at school (he kicked the kid last week and choked the kid this week). Needless to say, this meant a referral for my Kindergartener and in school suspension (although they don't call it that in elementary). THEN I had to take a step back in order to not bully him. If you've been bullied, you know what I'm talking about. Apparently at school, he showed no remorse although there was a LOT of remorse at home... mostly due to (ahem) spiritual conversations with God... I'm praying through it and trying my best. The one thing I hold on to is the fact that God placed him with me this young for a reason. I don't think that Joshua is headed for a life of crime... not with as many people praying for him daily and loving him as they do. I'm looking toward the future and praying that he's just getting this yucky stuff out of his system now so that we don't have to deal with it later. The difference for me is: I realize that it's not my fault. He's making these decisions. I'm not taking it personally which I did for a long time. He's choosing anger and bitterness. Until he decides that he wants to change, I can only change the environments he's in. But boy do I hate doing that. I miss that part of my son. I miss that time of hanging out and doing fun stuff and not having to discipline all the time. But, I know that God will bring him back. It's just hard to be patient. To top it off, the adoption is still not finalized. His sperm donor is MIA and doesn't want to be found. We are now at a 2 year process for adoption on something that should have gone smoothly. BUT again, I know that there is an end to this. God's got it under control. This past weekend, I was looking at the lesson for The Landing and there was this set of verses that I came across that I love in the Message. It's from Isaiah 41:8-12.
This is what the Lord says:
8-10"But you, Israel, are my servant.
You're Jacob, my first choice,
descendants of my good friend Abraham.
I pulled you in from all over the world,
called you in from every dark corner of the earth,
Telling you, 'You're my servant, serving on my side.
I've picked you. I haven't dropped you.'
Don't panic. I'm with you.
There's no need to fear for I'm your God.
I'll give you strength. I'll help you.
I'll hold you steady, keep a firm grip on you.
11-13"Count on it: Everyone who had it in for you
will end up out in the cold—
real losers.(<-- side note... in my head, I'm saying, "ha ha ha")
Those who worked against you
will end up empty-handed—
nothing to show for their lives.
When you go out looking for your old adversaries
you won't find them—
Not a trace of your old enemies,
not even a memory.
That's right. Because I, your God,
have a firm grip on you and I'm not letting go.
I'm telling you, 'Don't panic.
I'm right here to help you.'
How cool is that? So, this is what I'm clinging to this week and this is what I'm clinging to for my Joshua. Please continue to pray for both of us. The end of school is near!
Friday, October 7, 2011
For the past few days, I've had a Kirk Franklin song in my head. The whole song is about how God never puts more on us than we can bear. I've heard this before... many times in fact. In my culture, this is one of the many things that we say to each other over and over again. I often equate it to God will stop before it gets to be too much. But as I thought about it, I wonder... what is too much? If we look at the Bible, it seems that the human definition of too much and God's definition are two totally different things. Adam and Eve lost Paradise and later both their sons; one due to murder and the other to disobedience. Noah lost everyone who wasn't immediate family and endured years of teasing and taunting. Abraham had to leave everything that was familiar and go to some strange land. Lot lost his wife and self respect. Job lost everything except his wife and friends who let's be honest were not very good at the whole comforting thing... well you get the point. Some of them sinned and these were the consequences but some of them were just victims of circumstances beyond their control. As you know, I lost my job. I hate being unemployed because I love what I did and I love structure and predictability. I've been on several interviews but as of yet, not a single job. As of next week, I will be in real trouble because money will start to run out and my emergency fund will need funds. I was denied unemployment, my tax return didn't come through and now I'm fighting with both parts of the government to show me the money. I'm trying to raise my son without turning into the evil mother and trying to stay regulated so that he can stay regulated. I'm praying, studying, and doing a lot of talking to God. In the midst of all of this, I know that God will not put more on me than I can bear. But WHAT does that mean? I mean we say that so flippantly. "God won't give you more than you can handle" After a while it becomes more of a catch phrase meant to comfort even though many times, it doesn't.
Jesus told us not to worry about what we will eat or drink or wear. He says that God knows our needs and will take care of them. That God cares about us. I believe that whole-heartedly. But, in my humanness, I think, well, thanks for telling me not to worry. That's great to say. But how do I not worry? I mean, what else do I have to do? But then I remember my steps (of course) and pray the Serenity prayer and ask God... unpack this PLEASE! Here's what I discovered.
Matthew 11:28-30 NIRV
28 "Come to me, all of you who are tired and are carrying heavy loads. I will give you rest. 29 Become my servants and learn from me. I am gentle and free of pride. You will find rest for your souls. 30 Serving me is easy, and my load is light."
1 Peter 5:7 The Message (MSG)
6-7So be content with who you are, and don't put on airs. God's strong hand is on you; he'll promote you at the right time. Live carefree before God; he is most careful with you.
Here's what I learned: God doesn't give us more than we can handle... but we take on more than God intended for us to have. Jesus tells us to give our burdens to Him. He says if we do, then we will find the rest for our souls. God is not surprised by my life. It didn't just come upon Him. He did not say, "Uh-oh." or OOPS!. (I did though). Day in and day out, it's a daily decision for me to give Jesus my cares and concerns. If I don't, then I cannot blame God for giving me more than I can handle. The truth is that if my son is trying to pick something up that is too heavy, I tell him to put it down so that I can carry it to where it's supposed to go. Why? Because it's more than he can carry. He knows that it's too much and that if he tries, he'll hurt himself from the weight of it all. And yet in my life, I'm often trying to pick up a ton of bricks thinking that I can shoulder it alone. This was never what God intended. Sure, He'll let us try. But He's right there beside me saying, "Janelle, whenever you're tired of being stubborn, let me know. I have free hands to carry that." I am not God. I have zero control over any of this. The only thing I can do is give it to God and ask Him to carry it and me wherever He wants. The great thing about it is that He doesn't mind my asking. As a matter of fact, He wants me to ask. Yes, I'm struggling, but I'm trusting that God is going to get me through. The key for me: to rest in Him and not hop out of Hands. I want a job... I really do. But, during this time, I don't want to squander what God has for me. I will continue to pray for favor and gainful employment and ask that you do the same for me. But also, pray that I don't forget the valuable lessons that God has for me during this time.
Jesus told us not to worry about what we will eat or drink or wear. He says that God knows our needs and will take care of them. That God cares about us. I believe that whole-heartedly. But, in my humanness, I think, well, thanks for telling me not to worry. That's great to say. But how do I not worry? I mean, what else do I have to do? But then I remember my steps (of course) and pray the Serenity prayer and ask God... unpack this PLEASE! Here's what I discovered.
Matthew 11:28-30 NIRV
28 "Come to me, all of you who are tired and are carrying heavy loads. I will give you rest. 29 Become my servants and learn from me. I am gentle and free of pride. You will find rest for your souls. 30 Serving me is easy, and my load is light."
1 Peter 5:7 The Message (MSG)
6-7So be content with who you are, and don't put on airs. God's strong hand is on you; he'll promote you at the right time. Live carefree before God; he is most careful with you.
Here's what I learned: God doesn't give us more than we can handle... but we take on more than God intended for us to have. Jesus tells us to give our burdens to Him. He says if we do, then we will find the rest for our souls. God is not surprised by my life. It didn't just come upon Him. He did not say, "Uh-oh." or OOPS!. (I did though). Day in and day out, it's a daily decision for me to give Jesus my cares and concerns. If I don't, then I cannot blame God for giving me more than I can handle. The truth is that if my son is trying to pick something up that is too heavy, I tell him to put it down so that I can carry it to where it's supposed to go. Why? Because it's more than he can carry. He knows that it's too much and that if he tries, he'll hurt himself from the weight of it all. And yet in my life, I'm often trying to pick up a ton of bricks thinking that I can shoulder it alone. This was never what God intended. Sure, He'll let us try. But He's right there beside me saying, "Janelle, whenever you're tired of being stubborn, let me know. I have free hands to carry that." I am not God. I have zero control over any of this. The only thing I can do is give it to God and ask Him to carry it and me wherever He wants. The great thing about it is that He doesn't mind my asking. As a matter of fact, He wants me to ask. Yes, I'm struggling, but I'm trusting that God is going to get me through. The key for me: to rest in Him and not hop out of Hands. I want a job... I really do. But, during this time, I don't want to squander what God has for me. I will continue to pray for favor and gainful employment and ask that you do the same for me. But also, pray that I don't forget the valuable lessons that God has for me during this time.
Thursday, August 25, 2011
Ahhh insecurity!
Can I just start by saying that I love my life! I love what God has done and how He has changed me into a different person from the inside out. I am blessed with a wonderful son, I own my house, I have a job, and a car and plenty of friends whom I consider family. My life is awesome!
With this in mind, there are times that I feel so insecure. Joshua is the love of my life. I never want my life to return to the way it was before him. He's growing up, about to lose his first tooth, and started kindergarten this week. I look at him maturing and I can't help but think of all of the work God had to do to bring him to this place. While I agree that all children need two parents, Joshua is definitely one that needs both a mother and father. Quite frankly, it is only by God's grace that he is still allowed to breathe!;) Those of you who are parents of children know what I mean. If you have a non-talking/walking baby, don't worry, your time is coming! But I digress...
Obviously, I'm still not married, not even close to dating, etc. Most times, this doesn't bother me. God is enough for me. I may never get married and this is OK with me. God is all I need... and yet, when I think about what I want, I want more. The other day, old thoughts started creeping back up and I wanted to go back into old habits. But, before I lost my sobriety, I went back to what I've learned in CR... I am NOT God. My thought process was unmanageable and I needed to figure out why. So, I did a mini-inventory while walking my dog. I asked God to show me what I was doing wrong that I wanted to go down these wrong paths again. I thought about sin and how someone said that we sin when we think that God is not all that He says He is... that He is not good or completely trustworthy. "Well," I thought. "This isn't true. I know God is good. Look at all of the blessings that He has given me. He is enough." And yet, I knew that I had to look deeper. I asked God to search me and shine a light on the area of my life where my thoughts and feelings were keeping me from experiencing freedom from the old ways. The HS then said, "You don't trust God in the area of relationships. You don't think that He will honor that. You allow your insecurities get in the way of God doing what He wants in your life." Hence, I fall back into old habits. That's when I realized... I'm scared for God to give me things that I ask for. I play the what if game... mostly the what if this never changes or if I'm supposed to remain single for the rest of my life. I don't think about the alternative because long ago, I focused only on that and went the other extreme where I basically told God that He owed me that. Obviously I was not in my right mind and it is by the grace of God that I am able to write today;). But, there has to be a balance... where I accept the possibility and yet stay realistic and grounded.
I wish that I could say that this pattern only occurs there but it doesn't. Work is another area where I am afraid to take risks. I HATE rejection and I do as much as I can to avoid it. Losing my job was devastating. I put myself out there with my awesome resume' and... NOTHING. Not a call or anything. A bunch of rejection emails are all that I get. So I sensibly verbally take my old job back. Never mind that I told God that I wanted a job that would pay my bills and debts. I figured that maybe He wanted me to do things differently at work. I didn't represent Him the way I wanted to and I thought that He wanted me to take a do-over. Even while I was thinking that, I'm also not feeling as excited as I thought. But, with no other offers and school starting, I'm thinking that this is it. After next year, I will try again. But on Tuesday, I got a call and went on the interview today. God showed me again that He knows what I need. I don't know whether or not I'll get the job. Prayerfully I'll find out tomorrow. But, to me, this is another example of how my insecurities and mistrust of God get in the way of my relationship with Him. Total surrender? I don't know what that looks like, but I'm a pro at partial surrender. Third example? My dad called. He lives in Newport News and they are expecting a major hurricane. So, he called to ask if my step-mother and step sister could stay with me. At first I thought he was joking because my step mother and I have quite a difficult history. While I've forgiven her, my insecurities are still there. Right now in my glorious house, I don't have air conditioning, or cable/satellite. This is fine for Joshua and me, but someone spending the night? What if they're not comfortable? What do I have to offer? My house is not clean, blah blah blah blah. But, God again reminded me: it's not about me. It's about Him. This is about building relationship. If the opportunity comes, I will accept it while frantically cleaning my house for their arrival. But, I will not apologize for my un-air conditioned house. Nor will I apologize for not having cable. Why? Because these are situations/things that God has placed in my life for a reason. Neither of them know God and this is an opportunity for me to show them God's love. The chances of them coming are slim but if they do come, I don't want my insecurities to get in the way of being used to share the Good News with them. Because through all of this, God is reminding me: It's not about me. It's about Him. Greater is HE that is in me than he that is in the world. So, I am an insecure wreck and yet, God is using my weaknesses to show me His greatness. I love the upside down kingdom.
With this in mind, there are times that I feel so insecure. Joshua is the love of my life. I never want my life to return to the way it was before him. He's growing up, about to lose his first tooth, and started kindergarten this week. I look at him maturing and I can't help but think of all of the work God had to do to bring him to this place. While I agree that all children need two parents, Joshua is definitely one that needs both a mother and father. Quite frankly, it is only by God's grace that he is still allowed to breathe!;) Those of you who are parents of children know what I mean. If you have a non-talking/walking baby, don't worry, your time is coming! But I digress...
Obviously, I'm still not married, not even close to dating, etc. Most times, this doesn't bother me. God is enough for me. I may never get married and this is OK with me. God is all I need... and yet, when I think about what I want, I want more. The other day, old thoughts started creeping back up and I wanted to go back into old habits. But, before I lost my sobriety, I went back to what I've learned in CR... I am NOT God. My thought process was unmanageable and I needed to figure out why. So, I did a mini-inventory while walking my dog. I asked God to show me what I was doing wrong that I wanted to go down these wrong paths again. I thought about sin and how someone said that we sin when we think that God is not all that He says He is... that He is not good or completely trustworthy. "Well," I thought. "This isn't true. I know God is good. Look at all of the blessings that He has given me. He is enough." And yet, I knew that I had to look deeper. I asked God to search me and shine a light on the area of my life where my thoughts and feelings were keeping me from experiencing freedom from the old ways. The HS then said, "You don't trust God in the area of relationships. You don't think that He will honor that. You allow your insecurities get in the way of God doing what He wants in your life." Hence, I fall back into old habits. That's when I realized... I'm scared for God to give me things that I ask for. I play the what if game... mostly the what if this never changes or if I'm supposed to remain single for the rest of my life. I don't think about the alternative because long ago, I focused only on that and went the other extreme where I basically told God that He owed me that. Obviously I was not in my right mind and it is by the grace of God that I am able to write today;). But, there has to be a balance... where I accept the possibility and yet stay realistic and grounded.
I wish that I could say that this pattern only occurs there but it doesn't. Work is another area where I am afraid to take risks. I HATE rejection and I do as much as I can to avoid it. Losing my job was devastating. I put myself out there with my awesome resume' and... NOTHING. Not a call or anything. A bunch of rejection emails are all that I get. So I sensibly verbally take my old job back. Never mind that I told God that I wanted a job that would pay my bills and debts. I figured that maybe He wanted me to do things differently at work. I didn't represent Him the way I wanted to and I thought that He wanted me to take a do-over. Even while I was thinking that, I'm also not feeling as excited as I thought. But, with no other offers and school starting, I'm thinking that this is it. After next year, I will try again. But on Tuesday, I got a call and went on the interview today. God showed me again that He knows what I need. I don't know whether or not I'll get the job. Prayerfully I'll find out tomorrow. But, to me, this is another example of how my insecurities and mistrust of God get in the way of my relationship with Him. Total surrender? I don't know what that looks like, but I'm a pro at partial surrender. Third example? My dad called. He lives in Newport News and they are expecting a major hurricane. So, he called to ask if my step-mother and step sister could stay with me. At first I thought he was joking because my step mother and I have quite a difficult history. While I've forgiven her, my insecurities are still there. Right now in my glorious house, I don't have air conditioning, or cable/satellite. This is fine for Joshua and me, but someone spending the night? What if they're not comfortable? What do I have to offer? My house is not clean, blah blah blah blah. But, God again reminded me: it's not about me. It's about Him. This is about building relationship. If the opportunity comes, I will accept it while frantically cleaning my house for their arrival. But, I will not apologize for my un-air conditioned house. Nor will I apologize for not having cable. Why? Because these are situations/things that God has placed in my life for a reason. Neither of them know God and this is an opportunity for me to show them God's love. The chances of them coming are slim but if they do come, I don't want my insecurities to get in the way of being used to share the Good News with them. Because through all of this, God is reminding me: It's not about me. It's about Him. Greater is HE that is in me than he that is in the world. So, I am an insecure wreck and yet, God is using my weaknesses to show me His greatness. I love the upside down kingdom.
Wednesday, April 20, 2011
Just Breathe
I love my life... Seriously I do. Even though my life is in turmoil, God is so present that I'm OK with it most of the time. I have to find a new job but this was not a surprise to God. The funny thing is that He's been preparing me for this for a while. I feel calm and peaceful about it and that's really cool... OK I had one day of self loathing and pity party but by the end of the day, I wasn't feeling that way at all because I knew that something better was coming. God has definitely taught me that His currency always balances out regardless of the circumstances and that if I put Him first, He's going to take care of me. It may not be how I want it done and it usually is not my way... but in the end, His way is always better than mine. I don't know what's next but I know it's better which is cool because despite my last several postings, I love my job 90% of the time. My students are awesome and I've enjoyed watching them grow. What a blessing! I tell you...
Step study is going well and I am amazed each and every week by those women who are committed to healing and wanting to be whole before God. It's difficult because I'm not the most gracious person (in my mind anyway) and yet, God has truly impressed upon me how being slow to speak is so much more beneficial! It's taken a very long time but I'm getting there slowly but surely.
Home life is still going on day by day. By the look of my house, I'm still stressed (I say this as my feet are covered with clothes that I have to fold and put away and my house needs sweeping and mopping...) I don't quite know the angst I'm feeling but I'm praying that God will help me figure it out as I know the signs. I see myself escaping in benign activities like playing on my computer or watching TV trying to escape thinking about things around me although at times I don't quite know what I'm trying to avoid. I know what's bothering me lately though. My son's bio mom is back in town and I think that I'm allowing my own fears float around unwarranted in my brain. I know that it is Satan trying ever so hard to get to me and I'm fighting it believe me. But part of me still wonders, "What if?" In some ways, I could say that this is a rational fear, right? I mean adoption is not final and she could change her mind. I had a false belief that proximity would keep her from changing it but the truth is this is always a possibility until the papers are signed. Love is such a scary thing. It makes me so vulnerable and it is this that keeps me on my knees before God. My son is awesome and the thought of not having him is so painful I can't breathe. I don't know what I would do without a Joshua story. What a stinker! He's taught me that I have an anger problem, he's magnified my control issues and my insecurities about myself. He's embarrassed me in more ways that I care to count and has scared me more in certain situations than I have ever been scared in my life! But the thought of not having to outsmart my five year old sounds boring. He's come such a long way and I know that it is nothing that I've done, it's God. I don't want to play the What if soundtrack because I know better. But, God didn't say that using the tools that I've learned would be easy. I'm always having to go back to that first step... I'm not God. My life is unmanageable with me in control. But more than that, I have to remember that this IS my son. God IS going to come through not just because of all of the awesome things that have happened over the past five and a half years but because He never goes back on a promise. So, this is me living one day and moment at a time choosing to live in obedience and trust in the God of Peace because I know that He's got it under control. Speculation gets me nowhere. I just have to breathe... and know that in spite of what I'm feeling on the inside, I have a loving God who is taking care of me and Joshua and the situation. God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference. Living one day at a time, one moment at a time... accepting hardship as a pathway to peace, taking as Jesus did this sinful world as it is, not as I would have it, trusting that You will make all things right if I surrender to Your will so that I may be reasonably happy in this life and supremely happy with You forever in the next.... I know Father that in spite of everything that I am feeling inside, they are just feelings and not reality. I know that You know what's going to happen and I trust You. You are my Everlasting God and even when I am weary, You never are. Help me to come to You as You are my comforter and provider. You know what is best and regardless of what I feel, my worries are not reality. You are. Help me to remember that and thank You for wanting a relationship with me. One moment at a time is all that I have to do... Breathe:)
Step study is going well and I am amazed each and every week by those women who are committed to healing and wanting to be whole before God. It's difficult because I'm not the most gracious person (in my mind anyway) and yet, God has truly impressed upon me how being slow to speak is so much more beneficial! It's taken a very long time but I'm getting there slowly but surely.
Home life is still going on day by day. By the look of my house, I'm still stressed (I say this as my feet are covered with clothes that I have to fold and put away and my house needs sweeping and mopping...) I don't quite know the angst I'm feeling but I'm praying that God will help me figure it out as I know the signs. I see myself escaping in benign activities like playing on my computer or watching TV trying to escape thinking about things around me although at times I don't quite know what I'm trying to avoid. I know what's bothering me lately though. My son's bio mom is back in town and I think that I'm allowing my own fears float around unwarranted in my brain. I know that it is Satan trying ever so hard to get to me and I'm fighting it believe me. But part of me still wonders, "What if?" In some ways, I could say that this is a rational fear, right? I mean adoption is not final and she could change her mind. I had a false belief that proximity would keep her from changing it but the truth is this is always a possibility until the papers are signed. Love is such a scary thing. It makes me so vulnerable and it is this that keeps me on my knees before God. My son is awesome and the thought of not having him is so painful I can't breathe. I don't know what I would do without a Joshua story. What a stinker! He's taught me that I have an anger problem, he's magnified my control issues and my insecurities about myself. He's embarrassed me in more ways that I care to count and has scared me more in certain situations than I have ever been scared in my life! But the thought of not having to outsmart my five year old sounds boring. He's come such a long way and I know that it is nothing that I've done, it's God. I don't want to play the What if soundtrack because I know better. But, God didn't say that using the tools that I've learned would be easy. I'm always having to go back to that first step... I'm not God. My life is unmanageable with me in control. But more than that, I have to remember that this IS my son. God IS going to come through not just because of all of the awesome things that have happened over the past five and a half years but because He never goes back on a promise. So, this is me living one day and moment at a time choosing to live in obedience and trust in the God of Peace because I know that He's got it under control. Speculation gets me nowhere. I just have to breathe... and know that in spite of what I'm feeling on the inside, I have a loving God who is taking care of me and Joshua and the situation. God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference. Living one day at a time, one moment at a time... accepting hardship as a pathway to peace, taking as Jesus did this sinful world as it is, not as I would have it, trusting that You will make all things right if I surrender to Your will so that I may be reasonably happy in this life and supremely happy with You forever in the next.... I know Father that in spite of everything that I am feeling inside, they are just feelings and not reality. I know that You know what's going to happen and I trust You. You are my Everlasting God and even when I am weary, You never are. Help me to come to You as You are my comforter and provider. You know what is best and regardless of what I feel, my worries are not reality. You are. Help me to remember that and thank You for wanting a relationship with me. One moment at a time is all that I have to do... Breathe:)
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